I have often asked myself if there was such a thing as too much masturbation? Before you all unanimously shout “No”, really think about it a second. Yes masturbation is very healthy in most cases. It allows us all to explore our own sexuality and bodies, learning what feels good, what doesn’t and what can make us feel weak in the knees. Masturbation can also allow us to indulge in our sexy little fantasies that we personally enjoy. We all have our masturbation aids that we use to help get us in the mood. Be it erotica, porn or the power of our own thoughts, these methods all help to get the juices flowin’ and help bring us to our happy place.
For a lot of people, the masturbation aid of choice is porn, either still-shots (photos), or video. Porn offers something for everyone, no matter what your personal sexy niche might be – amateur, group sex, swingers, anal – you name it, you can find it in the porn industry, which makes it a perfect choice when you want get in the mood to make love to yourself!
But how much is too much masturbation? Is there really such a thing as too much? The answer is a simple one. Yes.
Enjoying the reaction of your body being excited, and turned on is great, don’t get me wrong. It’s a wonderful feeling when your entire body begins to get so turned on you ache. You muscles tighten, you feel yourself begin to go rock hard (or dripping wet!) and the urge to touch yourself is so intense, you just can’t help it! In most circumstances, this is completely normal and should be encouraged and even celebrated – and most of us do fall into the “normal circumstances’ category.
There are times however when masturbation can begin to pose a problem, and can become too much too often. If you masturbate at every opportunity, than this is not normal. I’m not talking about those times, when your sex drive is up, you get horny and you have to get off. We all go through those times. What I’m speaking about is those who make the choice to masturbate whenever and wherever they can, and even going a step further to say they don’t have a choice in the matter – they have to. If this is the case, there might be an underlining problem that should be addressed with a professional.
Another instance in my opinion where masturbation can become a problem is when you begin to choose masturbation over interaction with a partner. If you’d prefer to watch porn and get yourself off, than interact sexually with another person then there is an underlining problem that needs to be addressed as soon as possible. If masturbation has begun to interfere with your day-to-day life, when things are planned around masturbation times – then things are not as they should be sexually.
Masturbation is a wonderful thing – especially for those out there who are single. We all have urges that need to be taken care of. It’s natural and normal. But when masturbation has taken over your life and relationships, than it’s time to look inside and acknowledge a problem and work on finding a solution.
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ok here is my take on this issue:
I see masturbation as another form of sex. So I don’t see it as good or bad, I see it as an issue with limitation. What’s the difference with masturbating 5 times per day as opposed to having sex with your partner 5 times per day? wouldn’t it be the same thing? same release, just different methods and different sensations.
well… there *IS* going too far like the article states. If someonen would rather masturbate than enjoy the company and touch of another person.. than perhaps there is an issue..
Maturbation tends to be more agressive and can lead to less of a sensation during sex, damaging the nerves and impeding the ability of a guy to get an erection. For a guy, this is not a great thing. Women on the other hand, don’t masturbate (lol) – or so I’m told.
*laughs* Ohhhh Women Masturbate… trust me.. they just tend not to broadcast it to the world… as often.. LOL
Oh, women masturbate. However, as a result of a historically close-minded society regarding women’s right to 1) enjoy sex 2) enjoy sexuality without men 3) be open about sex and 4) not be ashamed of our bodies/sexual urges, women still have difficulties discussing masturbation. It’s a normal, healthy part of life and helps women find out what sort of stimulation, angles, toys, sensations, etc they enjoy, which only help more in the bedroom. Many, if not most, women masturbate, although they probably won’t tell you if you ask. It’s just a matter of fact that men masturbate, and since it’s discussed so openly, it’s a given. Want to hear something you may not have known? I actually know men who DON’T masturbate because the feeling of their own hand doesn’t turn them on. But that’s also the sort of thing you won’t hear a man say.
Very good points Lexi!!.. and I have to admit I’ve never heard of a man NOT getting turned on by their own touch.. wow.. learn something new everyday!!
hell no, i masturbate, andthen i masturbate again, the only thing better than masturbating is masturbating again, it is our blessed gift of being male