The whole topic of “going down” is often a subject that a lot of women roll their eyes at. Now I’m not talking about a blowjob, but a man going down on a woman, you know “eating her out” as is so affectinately known as. There are a lot of women out there that just don’t see what the big deal is.
Part of that might be due to the fact they have never experienced orgasm by way of the mouth – which mind you is not an easy thing to accomplish. For the majority of women, reaching orgasm is a chore in on itself, but add in a wet slobbering mouth on your va-jj that seeems to be not doing anything in particular in any reconizable order, and you’ve got disaster spelled all over it.
For some women the whole experience is not something they really enjoy, its a take it or leave it sitution, where it doesn’t really turn them off, but it doesn’t turn them on either. All women have experienced it at some point in their lives, where they’re laying there thinking to themselves “what is he doing?… is he going to come up for air?…man, I should get new shoes tomorrow”. Gentleman, if your lady doesn’t seem to be into it, its best just to gracefully retreat and try something different.
There are some techniques that just do NOT work, and ladies you will know exactly what I mean. First up, we have the slobber-monster, the man who seems to produce much more salavia than he needs in a week. Licking in pure randomness, creating one big slobbering mess down there and thinkin’ he’s the cats ass, while never really accomplishing a damn thing.
Another would be the suck and pullers. The men who decide to wrap their lips around the senstive, senstive, oh did I mention SENSTITIVE clit, and decide to suck on it like it you would a Mr. Freeze when trying to suck the last bit of melted goodness from the bottom. Guys, unless your lady is into pain, this is NOT something you should do. It will only create a lot of discomfort, and pain. Not to mention your lady friend will NEVER let you down there again… EV-ER.
Another turn off for ’some’ women is the fact that after being eaten out, their man then comes up and wants to kiss them. I say some women in this case due to the fact that not all women are turned off by their own taste – some rather enjoy it. But back to my train of throught. For some women, it’s a major turn off to have a guy coming towards them, with wet mouth and chin, pretty much dripping from their own slobber. I say their own slobber because keep in mind, that the group of women I’m talking about don’t really enjoy this sexual act, thus they wouldn’t get aroused and wet now would they?. But I’m rambling now, back to my point. For some women, this is simply another strike in the whole being eaten out fiasco.
Now keep in mind there are women out there who do enjoy this, but guys if you think its going to be like in the pornos, where the women are thrashing around the bed, arching and crying out your name, sorry, but you won’t find that in the majority of women. Do those women exist out there? I’m sure they do, but for arguments sake, I think you’ll find more who won’t respond that way than who will.
Now I’m not saying this is something that men should just give up on – on the contrary, keep at it. It just means that some men out there need to stop thinkin’ their Gods gift, and focus on the body language of their woman. And be sure you understand that body language. A squirm for example can easily be mistaken for pleasure when its a squirm of discomfort.
Another final word of advice gentlemen – don’t just dive in. I know that foreplay is often seen as a chore, but its something that is needed for the strange creature known as woman. Lots of soft kisses along the neck and earlobe. Warm caresses down her arms, sides and ass are all good things. Try dragging your fingertips down her spine and then over her ass, and down the backs of her legs, only to then move back up to her inner thighs. Soft, slow movements like that will get her in the mood, and turn her on. THEN perhaps going down on her could give you the reactions you are looking for. So keep tryin’ guys, remember, practice makes perfect!
