Big Folk Need Love Too!

Anyone who is overweight or have ever did the deed with someone who was a little on the heavy side know full well that sometimes it takes a little creative thinking to make things work as they should. Having sex with someone who is heavy is by no means any less pleasurable, and in fact some actually prefer their partner to have more meat on their bones. “More cushion for the pushin” as they might say.

From my own experience, I know that patience and creative thinking can go a long way when it comes to sex with a heavier partner, and so here are some tricks and positions that you may want to try.

Missionary
Yes, missionary is possible for heavier partners. It all comes down to two techniques. The first is for the man being able to balance and support his own weight Using your arms or keeping your torso vertical above your hips are two solutions to this problem. There is nothing more embarrassing than losing your balance and crushing your partner.

The second trick is – PILLOWS. Pillows are your friend in this position. Place a couple of pillows under the woman’s butt, until she is perfectly angled in a way that makes penetration easy. The use of pillows is great if your female partner carries a lot of her extra weight on her belly, as it will angel her backward, and gravity will assist and shift her belly back and way, giving the guy lots of room to do his thing!

Doggy Style
Doggy Style is the best position for heavier partners, as it requires not a lot of balance or flexibility from either partner. It also doesn’t require either partner to support any additional weight, making it the perfect solution. This position also gives the guy freedom of both his hands, so he can use them to move things around if needed. If the guy has a larger belly, he is able to lift it out of the way, or spread the woman’s thighs apart if needed.

Woman On Top
This position can be rather hard if not impossible sometimes if the woman is a heavier gal, but don’t dismiss it totally yet, there are tricks you can try.

Place a few pillows under the man’s butt, which will lift his hips up higher. The woman can then position herself overtop and begin to move down. While on top, she should lean back and place her weight on her hands while using her feet to motion herself up and down. If she has heavier thighs, it might be best to try this position using a squatting method of riding. Another variation is to have the woman grind her body back and forth on the shaft, as this will give stimulation for both partners. If the woman is going to be squatting, you may want to try this technique on a harder surface like a floor instead of a bed, as the floor will provide better stability.

I don’t know the name of this one (unfortunately)
For this position, have the woman lay on her side, with her leg lifted upward. The man then lays perpendicular to her and is able to easily make penetration without any bellies or thighs getting in the way. This position is very effective.

(writer note: this position has turned into an ongoing joke for many of my friends, as everyone I’ve spoken to know the position I describe but alas, no one seems to know the name of it – as a joke it has become the ‘un-named position’)

Pillows are your secret weapon
Remember – pillows are your friend! The use of pillows can be the best thing when it comes to sexual play between the sheets for larger partners. Pillows allow you to add lift where it’s needed, provide extra support (such as knees) and can make things a lot more comfy in general.