For many people sex and emotion go hand in hand, and you can’t have one without the other. The act of sex for the majority of people can begin innocent enough, but soon enough can bring an intense connection to their partner, which then builds into an emotional connection. This is completely normal. But there are some individuals with a personality that enables them to separate the two, allowing them to have continued sexual relations with someone without creating an emotional connection.

These individuals can easily disconnect themselves, and be able to have sex without creating the emotional connection that often comes with it. It takes a mentally strong person to become successful in this, and even then its not 100%.

Are these types of people hard or emotionally disconnected? Not at all, it can often be the opposite. Individuals who are able to emotionally detach themselves from sex can often be some of the most giving and loving people you’ve ever met. They have just gained the ability over time to be able to shut off that mental aspect of their brain before, during and after sexual actions that for the average person would kick in and begin to ‘feel something. Of course long exposure with the same partner may begin to wear down even the most savy of personality.

It is these types of people who can often have a very successful ‘friends with benefits’ relationship, as they are able to understand that sex is sex, and friendship is friendship, and not to mix the two.

Do you think you can train yourself to be able to choose who you emotionally connect with and who you detach yourself from?

Also back then, the phone performed one function and one function only, to talk to people. Do you remember those days? A phone was a huge black square or rectangle that was attached to the wall via a wire. This block had an interchangeable coiled wire that was connected to the receiver, the part where you listen and talk through. If your phone rang, there was a dedicated desk that this phone sat on, so that you can be comfortable while attached to the wall via a long wire, so that you can sit down and talk to whoever was at the other end. Back then we didn’t use the phone to talk to our friends to meet up, the phone was for adults to talk to other adults. We had to resort to.. GASP!!! Actually going outside and knocking on our friend’s doors to ask their parents if they could come outside and play.

Those of us lucky enough to have some money, had the Atari commodore, and some of us the earlier version with the two sticks that only went up and down to play some weird black and white version of tennis.

Back then there were no computers, no Internet, no social networks, no cell phones!!!!!. There was only black and white TV with only about 7 channels, and usually you would smack your little sister or brother on the head to get up and change the channel because there were no remote controls back then.

So what’s my point of all this. My point is simple this story. My girlfriend and I were celebrating our 2 month anniversary, and were in the middle of some hot passionate fucking, when all of the sudden both our phones go off. No, we did not stop having sex to check our phones, but we DID check them as soon as I was done planting my seed inside of her. We needed to go check who was trying to get in touch with us at 2am, that couldn’t wait for normal hours. Sad right? I think so. We checked our messages, went into the bathroom to clean up and get something to drink while we rested up for round two.

Now here comes the really, really, REALLY sad part of all this. We didn’t go back to bed and cuddle and make out like any other normal couple does. Nah, not us. We cleaned up, laid naked on the bed, and each of us were on our phones watching youtube or on facebook, myspace, or twitter for about a good hour!!!

CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS SHIT!?!?!?! What? We didn’t have anything good to talk about it? We couldn’t make conversation? We had to get on our goddamn smart phones and check whatever the fuck it was that we ‘needed’ to check? Honestly, that could have waited, and it HAD to wait until we got to a computer to check the video that she wanted me to watch because “her friend was not my friend on facebook”, so I had no access to view her videos.

Honestly, what the fuck has this world come to?

So we started to get frisky again and decided to go for another round, AFTER we plugged in our phones to charge the batteries. We get all hot and bothered, we are going at it, and then we need lube for anal sex.. where’s the lube? All the way across the fucking room (don’t ask how it got there). We had to turn on the light, and move the sheets looking for the fucking bottle. By the time I got back to bed, my hard-on was gone and the moment was ruined. She was not so turned on, and I didn’t want to fuck anymore; so I just got her off with my mouth and fingers.

Now after all this was done, we are laying in bed ready to clean each other up, when we realize that all the fucking towels were in the bathroom, and most of them already used up to clean ourselves from the previous rounds.

So what have we learned from this? Put your phone on vibrate before you start fucking, or simply just leave them behind. Make sure all lube and toys or any other paraphernalia that you like to use is very close to your choice of location to do the deed, and have some towels ready if you are the messy couple.

Ok, I’m done with my rant. J

As many of you that follow me on the social networks know that I’m a big fan of food and I love to post the pictures of the food that I eat on those social networks. In the next few days I will be driving through about 16 states, and I can’t wait to see what new foods I will get to discover. What does my traveling and eating have to do with a sex article? Bare with me while I tell you my logic.

I have found that there are some foods out there that are considered aphrodisiacs. With all my eating and huge sexual appetite, I have discovered and tested some natural foods that have gotten me very hard, and allow me to last a long time without any artificial enhancements. As any regular horny male, I used to research what I could do to make my cum taste better, to make me shoot more cum than the average guy, and what would keep me hard and generally increase my sexual prowess.

Not many people know this, but I was a line cook for a Japanese restaurant for 5 years in NYC. There I learned and tested a few things. It is said by the Japanese that oysters, eels and avocado are not only phrodisiacs, but that eel is good for a strong hard-on.

Me being the horny regular male that I am, I put that to the test after the restaurant owners told me about it.

I was with my girl friend at the time, and we had gone to eat to a Japanese restaurant (not the one I used to work at), and my appetizer was an order or fried oysters, and Unagi (eel over a bed of white rice). After our evening of hanging out in the city, we went back to her place in Brooklyn where I would spend the night most of the time. When it came to our regular scheduled fuck sessions, I noticed that I was hard as a rock, and came tons. Not only that, but I was able to maintain my erection after cumming and kept on fucking her until I came again. Not an easy feast to accomplish for most normal guys in their late 30’s.

I hadn’t realized it then, that maybe my Japanese bosses were telling me the truth about that, as I was not able to repeat the same performance two nights later.

Chocolate and strawberries are also known to be aphrodisiacs for women. Do you think that’s why they came up with chocolate covered strawberries? Does it do anything for you? I do have to tell you that I hate chocolate, but I will never ever pass up a chocolate covered strawberry; however I don’t recall wanting to hump my girl after eating them.

I have also heard that taking a daily dose of lecithin makes your cum thicker and more of it. Yes I have tried that and I didn’t see a difference.

How about eating artichokes? Have you tried that? The consensus is that it makes cum taste sweeter. One thing I know for sure that makes your cum taste better is drinking orange juice before a shoot. I usually drink a quart 3 days before I know the girl is going to take a load in her mouth. When I do this, the girls tell me that it tastes better than they expected and much sweeter

So now I ask you readers, what do guys, or your boyfriends do to make sex better naturally?

First of all, let’s get the technical side of things put to bed. For those who may have been living under a rock for most of their adult life, uncircumcised is when the foreskin is still attached and covers the head of the penis. The foreskin is then rolled back, exposing the head during sex.  A circumcised penis is well… the opposite. The foreskin has been surgurically removed and the head is exposed to the elements 24-7.

Now let’s talk about an uncircumcised penis. The foreskin covering the head, is great for the man involved during sex as it makes the head super sensitive, due to the fact it hasn’t been exposed to things such as rubbing fabrics during daily routines. Other than this, and perhaps some religious beliefs, does the foreskin really provide any other benefits other than protection?  For an uncircumcised man, hygiene is super important, as you must roll back the foreskin and be sure to clean SUPER well to prevent bacteria growth and infection. But look at it from a woman’s point of view for a moment (which is the point of this article – sorry fellas)

My girlfriend for one has some very strong opinions on an uncircumcised penis – and I’m going to share her point of view with you now. Her biggest pet peeve with the “capped” ones is hygiene. Guys, if you don’t scrub your junk REALLY well, you’re going to leave things hiding behind that us ladies don’t want to find. Surprises are good, but not when you are going down there. First up, if you don’t clean well, the first turn off will be the smell. Everybody sweats, but with the foreskin still attached, it’s going to sweat more. Add that to the fact that you do urinate, and I’m sure that after giving it a ‘few shakes’, the fact that some urine is going to drip down the foreskin and then linger. Common ladies, you and I both know that unique smell of sweat and piss that at some points we’ve ALL encountered at some point. NUMBER ONE TURN OFF.

Number two on the list, and maybe some men out there can give us ladies some insight on this. WHY WHY WHY, is there ALWAYS lint hiding up inside there?? I’m serious here, and always hiding up in under the rim of the head. How in the bloody hell does it get there when you have something hanging and protecting the head of the dick??? Someone, ANYONE please! Give us ladies some answers here! You roll back the foreskin, and HELLO, you have to pick little balls of yarn from under the head or god forbid if you missed it and then have to try and pick them off the back of your tongue. UGH All I want to know is how it gets there, or is this one of life’s secrets like how they get the caramilk in the caramilk bar?

Now for the circumcised men – those who although the head might be desensitized a bit, have none of the issues of the uncircumcised penis men do. True, hygiene is obviously an important issue, as are the issues of smell, urine and bacteria, but being circumcised, there is nothing to pull back, nothing to hide unwanted balls of yarn or other such surprises. But it all comes down to personal preference. Some women claim they can feel the different inside between a circumcised and uncircumcised – and other women still have a preference when performing oral sex, which I understand totally. When giving head to an uncircumcised man the foreskin will move as your mouth does. This may feel strange to some women, while others won’t really notice it – just another thing to add to the overall debate

So ladies, what are your personal preferences? Guys, are you circumcised or uncircumcised, let’s get a little poll happening here – completely unscientific of course.. *laughs*

Let me paint a scenario for you, and then give me your opinion on it.

My girl and I were in the middle of a hot and heavy session. She was laying on her stomach as I was kissing the small of her back. In a very sexy way I asked her if she could lay on her back so that I can see her eyes when I’m on top of her. As she turns around she swings her left arm first, and her elbow lands right at the top of my head knocking me back. Not only did I see stars, but I think I saw some cartoon birds as well.

Shit, talk about a mood killer, how do you recover from something like that? well, we were horny, so after putting ice on my head and then icy hot, we picked up where we left off.

Now I only bring this up because the next day, the same damn thing happened, this time on my nose. Yeah I know, I have to either learn to duck, learn my lesson, or just stop fucking around massaging and kissing her back and then asking her to turn over. Mind you, the second time when she bloodied my nose, we were actually laughing about it, but that didn’t stop us.

Now my question is, what’s the statistic on bedroom accidents during love making? What about the guys that think they are acrobats and fall off the bed right on their asses? Has anybody ever gone to the emergency room with a burn on their asses from fucking on the stove? This is the kind of shit I think about during my down time when I’m not editing videos or pictures.

What about this, has there been a situation where a couple been having sex so vigorously that the the poor dog thought it was a fight and bit one of them in the ass???

I now really want to know about this, and I mean beyond the regular pushing the girl so hard during missionary position the the guy is clueless she’s banging her head on the headboard or wall. I’ve heard about the girl that gets her fingers pinched between the headboard and the wall when she’s holding on to the headboard. Of course there’s also the occasional charley horse when you least expect it. However can that really be consider an injury?

True story!
I knew somebody that was getting frisky with his girl in the wild, and some how a bee stung the tip of his cock. I wouldn’t have believed it if he didn’t drop his drawers at my friends house and was showing everybody. Now I personally think he was trying to fuck the beehive, cause how in the heck does a bee sting you right on the head of your cock? But to each his own I always say.

Now I had to bring all this up because more than once I have been the victim of a sex injury. Like the time I got tied up to my bed so tight I couldn’t move. Come to find out the girl was into hurting their partners, and I freaked the hell out when I saw the knife come out of her back pocket. She made a small knick on my belly with the tip of her knife, poured beer on it, and licked it all up. Oh yeah, that was my birthday sex. Thanks, but not thanks lady, you can keep your freaky sex.

So come on readers, I really want to know your “sex injuries” stories. I think that no matter how bad it might have been at the time, I’m sure you are now looking back and laughing at all this. So share with us and let’s compare stories, or as they say, “war scars”.

This type of masturbation can be very erotic and exciting for some, as you are getting stimulated visually by watching the other persons actions, and being stimulated by sound, as you can hear the person’s sounds of excitement – their pants, and moans… hmmm.. yeahhhh.. it can be very interesting indeed.

I find that a lot of men love to watch a woman please her own body. For some, it’s a sign of a confidant woman, one who knows her body, how to please it sexually and can share that with someone is an incredible turn on. In the same breath, there are women who also enjoy watching a man stroke himself to orgasm. Watching the cum explode and spurt from the head of his manhood can be a very sexy and hot as hell experience for them to watch. In both cases, watching a member of the opposite sex (of for some even the same sex) bring themselves to orgasm will often boost their own excitement, bringing them over the edge themselves to reach their own very very happy place!

Mutual masturbation is a form of play without the worry. There is no fear of contracting an sexually transmitted disease, no fear of an unwanted pregnancy, no fear of not measuring up and being able to please your partner. You are your own partner. You can take this one step further, and raise the argument that mutual masturbation is not a form of cheating as there are no touching involved with the other individual. You are simply both in the same room with one another, and just happen to be watching them masturbate while you do the same. Some could even say this is no different than watching porn and getting yourself off. Some will agree. Others won’t. It’s the nature of the beast.

Whatever way you slice it, mutual masturbation can be a lot more fun that simply doing it yourself. It gives you additional stimulators, which can add to your own excitement. If you have never experienced mutual masturbation, perhaps it’s something you’d like to experiment with, with your partner. If you don’t have a partner (or a special friend), there are methods as well.

Mutual masturbation is exactly what you do when it comes to cyber sex. Introduce a web cam where you can see each other, and perhaps even a mic, and there you have it. You can see and hear each other, but there will be no touching what so ever. The perfect plan if physical contact sex is not on your agenda!

This is all about anal sex from a male’s perspective; it’s not all it’s cracked up to be, uh, no pun intended, but you will be doing it more often if you follow these tips:

-No Ramming Please

First thing first guys, PLEASE don’t ram it in. You need to understand that the anal cavity is not self-lubricating like the vagina is. Also, it is much tighter, so you need to be gentle when it comes to anal sex.

-Make Sure The Girl is Relaxed

You need to make sure the girl is relaxed. If she’s not, then please put it off for another time. If the girl is nervous, then she’s going to clamp up as soon as she feels the tip of your head touch the cavity. If she’s nervous, trust me, its not going to be a good experience for neither of you

-Use The Right Lubrication

Ok, this one is the biggie one, and for the first time I will share an industry secret that not everybody is privy to. When it comes to lube, there are many kinds. However the most recommended for anal sex is a silicone based lube because it lasts longer than water-soluble lubes, and it’s very slippery, however it’s a bit of a pain to clean. So what’s the secret? Vitamin E. HUH? Are you serious? Yup. Vitamin E is the lube of choice for many reasons. The anal cavity, just as the vagina and the urethra is very sensitive. So using vitamin E as a lubricant not only works great, but you also lower the risk of the girl getting any infection or skin irritation from the friction. Yeah I know, Vitamin E is a pain in to clean up, but what would you prefer, spending a few extra minutes cleaning up your privates, which can be fun if you are creative or hearing your girlfriend telling you that it was fun and to do it more often? Yeah, that’s what I thought.

-Point of insertion

So here you are. You have followed the steps above, and now you are all excited that you finally got your girlfriend to say yes to giving you the green light. As your missile is approaching base still keep in mind, NO RAMMING!!!

You need to make the girl aware of your actions, so let her know what you are doing. Tell her that you are going to put the head of your penis on her opening, and do just that. Rest your engorged head at the opening without inserting. Make sure to pause and ask her if she’s ok. When she gives you the ok, tell her that you are going to put the head in, and do JUST THAT. Very slowly insert just the head of the penis. Why? Here’s why. Once the girl has the head inside of her, the rest is gravy. It will be easier for her to handle the rest. Little by little push it in and listen to hear moans. Hopefully by now you should know when your girlfriend is moaning in pleasure or pain. If you don’t know her that well, then make sure she tells you she feels pain or discomfort.

***Important Tip: Don’t try to be a porn star and take your missile in and out of her cavity. Do an in an out motion ensuring that it does not come out of her cavity. Re-entry is actually more painful than the in and out motion, cause the anal cavity will re-close with her clenching once you take it out. So just leave it in****

That’s all there is to it. Where you shoot your load is up to the both of you, I’m not getting involved in that. I got you this far, now you are on your own.

So to recap, what have we learned kiddies?

• Don’t ram it in
• Make sure the girl is relaxed
• Use the appropriate lubrication type
• What to do during the insertion

If you follow these tips, I’m sure you’ll be having as much anal sex as…as…. the next guy?. Not me though. I have been cursed with a very girth-y penis and even experienced girls don’t want me up their bum… such a curse. LOL

What is special about the male g-spot?

For those men who have experienced an orgasm after having their g-spot stimulated, they will tell you it was one of their most intense orgasms ever.  For those men that cringe at the thought of having the male g-spot massaged, they just fear the unknown.

The male g-spot is not a place that many men will explore for the simply fact it is located between their scrotum and anus.  That doesn’t sound so bad.  However, to successfully have it stimulated by their mate, access is gained by inserting a well lubricated finger or device about 2 centimeters inside the butt.

Yep, you read it right.  The male g-spot is located up a man’s ass.

For the majority of men who fantasize about anal sex with their partners, they see no problems with inserting their dick up their partners butt when it’s erect and about 4 -5 times more round than a typical woman’s finger.  However, when the roles are reversed and it requires the insertion of a finger to stimulate the male g-spot, they cringe and screak in terror.

The male g-spot is actually the man’s prostate.  And having this slightly stimulated during oral sex will drive the man crazy.  In fact, there are numerous documented cases of men reaching orgasm while having their prostate examined in a doctor’s office.

For the man, having his g-spot slightly massaged while receiving oral sex will send him shuttering in pleasure.  The intensity of a blow job increases ten fold during this practice and there are many men who cannot control the flow of pre-cum during male g-spot stimulation.

A partner with a skilled finger can control the intensity during male g-spot stimulation, bringing him to the brink of orgasm only to stop and have him beg for more.

So men, remember, that while having your g-spot stimulated may sound painful, it is anything but.  Open your mind to the possibilities and allow your partner to explore.

Infidelity is defined as: “sexual unfaithfulness to one’s husband, wife, or lover”. Sexual unfaithfulness – that could be a broad range of things, so let’s take it a step further.

Sexual is defined as:

1. Of, relating to, involving, or characteristic of sex, sexuality, the sexes, or the sex organs and their functions.

2. Implying or symbolizing erotic desires or activity.

3. Relating to, produced by, or involving reproduction characterized by the union of male and female gametes:

Well that really doesn’t make the whole thing any easier now does it? The whole debate all comes down to individual beliefs and what each individual would consider as infidelity. For some, infidelity might include everything sexual, physical, via the phone or even the Internet. So if this is the case, for these people, is watching porn even considered cheating.

For others, infidelity is anything sexual in a physical manner. This includes sexual penetration, all forms of oral sex, fondling, kissing etc with anyone other than your partner. There are others still who believe that you don’t have to become physical with someone for it to be infidelity. Emotional cheating is on the rise with the popularity of the Internet.

What is Emotional cheating? It layman’s terms, it’s when you come emotionally connected to someone other than your partner. You may really enjoy spending time with them, talking to them and sharing your thoughts and concerns with them. You enjoy being with them so much that you would rather spend your free time with them than your partner.

So now I go back to the question I posed at the beginning. If you are online, flirting and playing around sexually with someone, is this cheating? There is no physical contact, so that doesn’t play a role in the question. It all comes down to the emotional cheating aspect of infidelity.

Perhaps the two individuals don’t know each other beyond the Internet, and have no risk of ever meeting each other face to face, but feel a strong connection to one another. Perhaps the two individuals are friends and only play online for sexual release, and have no emotional connection to one another beyond that of regular friendship. Perhaps even still, the individuals are complete strangers from a random chat room, who both felt a little horny at the same time.

What could cause problems in a relationship is if one partner believes that online flirting and role-play IS cheating while the other believes it to be harmless fun, and being no more harmful than watching porn or reading erotica.

But the question remains, is it really harmful if you are flirting or playing online with someone if your partner doesn’t know about it? There are no performs or colognes to be smelled on you by your partner. No lies to make up about where you’ve been for the past few hours. No risks of STD’s or unwanted pregnancies. In the same breath, there has to be taken into consideration your partner’s feelings on the issue. Would they be hurt to learn you’ve been doing this? Would they care since there was no physical contact?

So as all things in the exciting, thrilling, wonderful and sometimes confusing as hell world of sex, what you thought was a cut and dry Yes or No answer, can easily turn into something with almost a life of its own. Just remember, that whatever you choose, in a relationship there is always someone else to consider beside yourself. .

First off I’m going to create a little scenario for you. A friend decides to help out another friend by performing a blowjob on him. There is no emotional connection, no touching, fondling or otherwise. It is simply the action of the mouth on the shaft moving up and down. Yes, it is a blowjob, but could it also be simply one friend assisting the masturbation of another? Think about it.

This idea could be pushed even further of course. Say the friend of the man didn’t even touch the head or the shaft, simply sat nearby while he jerked off, and then came in the mouth of his friend. Does that fall under the family of the blowjob? What if the friend licked the head, while he stroked himself, but did nothing else. Again, does this fall into the same category of a blowjob? Interesting no?

Could this type of thing be placed in a similar category as mutual masturbation? In the scenario I outlined above, the only individual getting any sexual relief is the friend receiving the blowjob, and that blowjob it’s a very technical blowjob, with no other play what so ever.

For those who may not know, mutual masturbation is when two partners masturbate in front of each other. They do not touch one another at all, and simply turn each other on by watching and hearing each other. This form of sexual play is often not thought of as cheating when performed outside of a relationship due to the fact there is no physical contact with the other person.

Think of the whole concept of the blowjob as a masturbation aid in reverse. If a woman is fingering herself, while someone is sucking her tits, would that not be aiding in masturbation?