This is all about anal sex from a male’s perspective; it’s not all it’s cracked up to be, uh, no pun intended, but you will be doing it more often if you follow these tips:

-No Ramming Please

First thing first guys, PLEASE don’t ram it in. You need to understand that the anal cavity is not self-lubricating like the vagina is. Also, it is much tighter, so you need to be gentle when it comes to anal sex.

-Make Sure The Girl is Relaxed

You need to make sure the girl is relaxed. If she’s not, then please put it off for another time. If the girl is nervous, then she’s going to clamp up as soon as she feels the tip of your head touch the cavity. If she’s nervous, trust me, its not going to be a good experience for neither of you

-Use The Right Lubrication

Ok, this one is the biggie one, and for the first time I will share an industry secret that not everybody is privy to. When it comes to lube, there are many kinds. However the most recommended for anal sex is a silicone based lube because it lasts longer than water-soluble lubes, and it’s very slippery, however it’s a bit of a pain to clean. So what’s the secret? Vitamin E. HUH? Are you serious? Yup. Vitamin E is the lube of choice for many reasons. The anal cavity, just as the vagina and the urethra is very sensitive. So using vitamin E as a lubricant not only works great, but you also lower the risk of the girl getting any infection or skin irritation from the friction. Yeah I know, Vitamin E is a pain in to clean up, but what would you prefer, spending a few extra minutes cleaning up your privates, which can be fun if you are creative or hearing your girlfriend telling you that it was fun and to do it more often? Yeah, that’s what I thought.

-Point of insertion

So here you are. You have followed the steps above, and now you are all excited that you finally got your girlfriend to say yes to giving you the green light. As your missile is approaching base still keep in mind, NO RAMMING!!!

You need to make the girl aware of your actions, so let her know what you are doing. Tell her that you are going to put the head of your penis on her opening, and do just that. Rest your engorged head at the opening without inserting. Make sure to pause and ask her if she’s ok. When she gives you the ok, tell her that you are going to put the head in, and do JUST THAT. Very slowly insert just the head of the penis. Why? Here’s why. Once the girl has the head inside of her, the rest is gravy. It will be easier for her to handle the rest. Little by little push it in and listen to hear moans. Hopefully by now you should know when your girlfriend is moaning in pleasure or pain. If you don’t know her that well, then make sure she tells you she feels pain or discomfort.

***Important Tip: Don’t try to be a porn star and take your missile in and out of her cavity. Do an in an out motion ensuring that it does not come out of her cavity. Re-entry is actually more painful than the in and out motion, cause the anal cavity will re-close with her clenching once you take it out. So just leave it in****

That’s all there is to it. Where you shoot your load is up to the both of you, I’m not getting involved in that. I got you this far, now you are on your own.

So to recap, what have we learned kiddies?

• Don’t ram it in
• Make sure the girl is relaxed
• Use the appropriate lubrication type
• What to do during the insertion

If you follow these tips, I’m sure you’ll be having as much anal sex as…as…. the next guy?. Not me though. I have been cursed with a very girth-y penis and even experienced girls don’t want me up their bum… such a curse. LOL

From my own experience, I know that patience and creative thinking can go a long way when it comes to sex with a heavier partner, and so here are some tricks and positions that you may want to try.

Missionary
Yes, missionary is possible for heavier partners. It all comes down to two techniques. The first is for the man being able to balance and support his own weight Using your arms or keeping your torso vertical above your hips are two solutions to this problem. There is nothing more embarrassing than losing your balance and crushing your partner.

The second trick is – PILLOWS. Pillows are your friend in this position. Place a couple of pillows under the woman’s butt, until she is perfectly angled in a way that makes penetration easy. The use of pillows is great if your female partner carries a lot of her extra weight on her belly, as it will angel her backward, and gravity will assist and shift her belly back and way, giving the guy lots of room to do his thing!

Doggy Style
Doggy Style is the best position for heavier partners, as it requires not a lot of balance or flexibility from either partner. It also doesn’t require either partner to support any additional weight, making it the perfect solution. This position also gives the guy freedom of both his hands, so he can use them to move things around if needed. If the guy has a larger belly, he is able to lift it out of the way, or spread the woman’s thighs apart if needed.

Woman On Top
This position can be rather hard if not impossible sometimes if the woman is a heavier gal, but don’t dismiss it totally yet, there are tricks you can try.

Place a few pillows under the man’s butt, which will lift his hips up higher. The woman can then position herself overtop and begin to move down. While on top, she should lean back and place her weight on her hands while using her feet to motion herself up and down. If she has heavier thighs, it might be best to try this position using a squatting method of riding. Another variation is to have the woman grind her body back and forth on the shaft, as this will give stimulation for both partners. If the woman is going to be squatting, you may want to try this technique on a harder surface like a floor instead of a bed, as the floor will provide better stability.

I don’t know the name of this one (unfortunately)
For this position, have the woman lay on her side, with her leg lifted upward. The man then lays perpendicular to her and is able to easily make penetration without any bellies or thighs getting in the way. This position is very effective.

(writer note: this position has turned into an ongoing joke for many of my friends, as everyone I’ve spoken to know the position I describe but alas, no one seems to know the name of it – as a joke it has become the ‘un-named position’)

Pillows are your secret weapon
Remember – pillows are your friend! The use of pillows can be the best thing when it comes to sexual play between the sheets for larger partners. Pillows allow you to add lift where it’s needed, provide extra support (such as knees) and can make things a lot more comfy in general.

Most of us know what those are, and even some of us have used them. Thanks to marketing, most people know about the “blue pill” that works magic. But that’s not the only one in the market. There are quite a few of them nowadays, and more affordable than ever.

But are they right for you? What works for one man, may not work for another. I have heard from people that take one kind of pill and can have a hard-on for days, but it’s impossible for them to ejaculate. On the same token, I have heard of guys that can ejaculate multiple times, but can only maintain the erection for only an hour or so. Of course, there are those that can’t even get it up, and the little blue “magic pill” does is magic until the guys does his. After that, he’s done.

So what works for you? That depends, and to some extent, you’ll have to try them out for yourself. Now I’m not condoning that you go popping pills to “enhance” your sexual experience. I’m sure that up to a certain point, they cannot be too good for you if you become too dependent on them. However now and then would be fine. I’m sure we have all been in a situation where we are too tired from working all day, and just don’t have the energy to perform that night. I wouldn’t want my partner mad at me for not giving her pleasure, would you?

Me personally I have tried only two. The first one I tried did not do squat for me except making me dizzy for a couple of hours, and there was no difference at all in my performance. Yes this is the same “enhancer” that two other friends swear by it.

The second one was a hit. Now I’ve only taken it once, and I was able to tell the difference. I don’t know about you, but if a girl is giving me oral pleasure, and then I go down on her, I loose my erection until it’s time to go at it. That’s just me; it’s not that I’m not enjoying it; it’s just that my erection is not getting any attention.

So when I tried this “all natural” enhancer, I was able to see the difference because I still had an erection after going down on the girl. It was great because I didn’t have to get an erection to put on the condom; I still had one. Even better, it only took about half an hour for the effects to kick in.

However that was the only difference that I noticed. I don’t know if I lasted longer or more often than usual that night. I do know that I did not have any side effects, and did not feel dizzy as I did when I took that other pill.

Will I use those pills again? Sure will. I bought two more of those pills to have around for those “just in case” situations.

If you would like to know more about the pills, please leave me a message below or send me an email at jupaproductions@gmail.com and I will provide you with more info about them.

Till next time, happy sexing.

How sad is it that she’s absolutely right? Well, she said it’s not sad, and to think about it. Look at the plethora of toys that women have to please themselves when a hard rock real life penis won’t do. When you mention the rabbit, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? How about the butterfly? Yep, they are both tools that are used by women to please themselves, and are very famous toys. There’s all kinds of sizes, shapes, colors, and materials. The glass toys are becoming very, very popular because you can use it with just lube at room temperature, put it in boiling water for that warm fuzzy feeling, or put it in the freezer for that cold touch if that’s your thing. Now those are ones that are used vaginal, then there are the anal options called “Butt Plugs”. They have ones that blow up, or ones with “knuckles”, short ones, long ones, thick ones, thin ones, curved, ones, the list goes on and on.

Now don’t go feeling bad for the guys, there are plenty of toys for the male as well. The only difference is that for guys it has to be more realistic like “The Mouth” or the “real-feel butt mold”. Even the “fleshlight” resembles a mouth in a portable tube that you can carry with you for those moments when you can’t hold it any longer and need to “rub” one out. Companies have finally realized that guys need better toys, so they are coming out with all these pockets made out of flesh-like materials that feel really good, ahem, so I’ve been told.

What I like about the male toys however, is not only that they are for pleasure, but they also enhance the sexual experience. Take for example the cock ring – a very popular item that comes in rubber and leather. The leather ones can be as intricate as two loops; one for the ball-sack and one for the cock itself. Not only can it look good, but it helps in maintaining an erection by restraining the blood flow once the cock is hard. *Note: not to be used for long periods of time*

One of my favorite cock rings will have to be a rubber one called the “tickler”. It has a sort of head at the very top that can be used to stimulate the clitoris when the man is inside the woman. That way both the male and female will enjoy that extra oomph in their sex lives.

For those that have sensitive nipples, there are nipple clamps in many varieties and pressure intensity. I personally rather have the sensitive touch of a female tongue on my nipples, which is my biggest weakness. However I’ve been known to wear the nipple clamps when a girl is blowing me to completion

So now you know that there are as many toys for the guys as there are for the girls. I personally like to purchase my toys from Adam & Eve, which is very reputable, with a vast variety of toys for both men and women. My favorite toy? Don’t have one yet. Want to send me one to test? Please feel free.