For many people sex and emotion go hand in hand, and you can’t have one without the other. The act of sex for the majority of people can begin innocent enough, but soon enough can bring an intense connection to their partner, which then builds into an emotional connection. This is completely normal. But there are some individuals with a personality that enables them to separate the two, allowing them to have continued sexual relations with someone without creating an emotional connection.

These individuals can easily disconnect themselves, and be able to have sex without creating the emotional connection that often comes with it. It takes a mentally strong person to become successful in this, and even then its not 100%.

Are these types of people hard or emotionally disconnected? Not at all, it can often be the opposite. Individuals who are able to emotionally detach themselves from sex can often be some of the most giving and loving people you’ve ever met. They have just gained the ability over time to be able to shut off that mental aspect of their brain before, during and after sexual actions that for the average person would kick in and begin to ‘feel something. Of course long exposure with the same partner may begin to wear down even the most savy of personality.

It is these types of people who can often have a very successful ‘friends with benefits’ relationship, as they are able to understand that sex is sex, and friendship is friendship, and not to mix the two.

Do you think you can train yourself to be able to choose who you emotionally connect with and who you detach yourself from?

First of all, let’s get the technical side of things put to bed. For those who may have been living under a rock for most of their adult life, uncircumcised is when the foreskin is still attached and covers the head of the penis. The foreskin is then rolled back, exposing the head during sex.  A circumcised penis is well… the opposite. The foreskin has been surgurically removed and the head is exposed to the elements 24-7.

Now let’s talk about an uncircumcised penis. The foreskin covering the head, is great for the man involved during sex as it makes the head super sensitive, due to the fact it hasn’t been exposed to things such as rubbing fabrics during daily routines. Other than this, and perhaps some religious beliefs, does the foreskin really provide any other benefits other than protection?  For an uncircumcised man, hygiene is super important, as you must roll back the foreskin and be sure to clean SUPER well to prevent bacteria growth and infection. But look at it from a woman’s point of view for a moment (which is the point of this article – sorry fellas)

My girlfriend for one has some very strong opinions on an uncircumcised penis – and I’m going to share her point of view with you now. Her biggest pet peeve with the “capped” ones is hygiene. Guys, if you don’t scrub your junk REALLY well, you’re going to leave things hiding behind that us ladies don’t want to find. Surprises are good, but not when you are going down there. First up, if you don’t clean well, the first turn off will be the smell. Everybody sweats, but with the foreskin still attached, it’s going to sweat more. Add that to the fact that you do urinate, and I’m sure that after giving it a ‘few shakes’, the fact that some urine is going to drip down the foreskin and then linger. Common ladies, you and I both know that unique smell of sweat and piss that at some points we’ve ALL encountered at some point. NUMBER ONE TURN OFF.

Number two on the list, and maybe some men out there can give us ladies some insight on this. WHY WHY WHY, is there ALWAYS lint hiding up inside there?? I’m serious here, and always hiding up in under the rim of the head. How in the bloody hell does it get there when you have something hanging and protecting the head of the dick??? Someone, ANYONE please! Give us ladies some answers here! You roll back the foreskin, and HELLO, you have to pick little balls of yarn from under the head or god forbid if you missed it and then have to try and pick them off the back of your tongue. UGH All I want to know is how it gets there, or is this one of life’s secrets like how they get the caramilk in the caramilk bar?

Now for the circumcised men – those who although the head might be desensitized a bit, have none of the issues of the uncircumcised penis men do. True, hygiene is obviously an important issue, as are the issues of smell, urine and bacteria, but being circumcised, there is nothing to pull back, nothing to hide unwanted balls of yarn or other such surprises. But it all comes down to personal preference. Some women claim they can feel the different inside between a circumcised and uncircumcised – and other women still have a preference when performing oral sex, which I understand totally. When giving head to an uncircumcised man the foreskin will move as your mouth does. This may feel strange to some women, while others won’t really notice it – just another thing to add to the overall debate

So ladies, what are your personal preferences? Guys, are you circumcised or uncircumcised, let’s get a little poll happening here – completely unscientific of course.. *laughs*

What is special about the male g-spot?

For those men who have experienced an orgasm after having their g-spot stimulated, they will tell you it was one of their most intense orgasms ever.  For those men that cringe at the thought of having the male g-spot massaged, they just fear the unknown.

The male g-spot is not a place that many men will explore for the simply fact it is located between their scrotum and anus.  That doesn’t sound so bad.  However, to successfully have it stimulated by their mate, access is gained by inserting a well lubricated finger or device about 2 centimeters inside the butt.

Yep, you read it right.  The male g-spot is located up a man’s ass.

For the majority of men who fantasize about anal sex with their partners, they see no problems with inserting their dick up their partners butt when it’s erect and about 4 -5 times more round than a typical woman’s finger.  However, when the roles are reversed and it requires the insertion of a finger to stimulate the male g-spot, they cringe and screak in terror.

The male g-spot is actually the man’s prostate.  And having this slightly stimulated during oral sex will drive the man crazy.  In fact, there are numerous documented cases of men reaching orgasm while having their prostate examined in a doctor’s office.

For the man, having his g-spot slightly massaged while receiving oral sex will send him shuttering in pleasure.  The intensity of a blow job increases ten fold during this practice and there are many men who cannot control the flow of pre-cum during male g-spot stimulation.

A partner with a skilled finger can control the intensity during male g-spot stimulation, bringing him to the brink of orgasm only to stop and have him beg for more.

So men, remember, that while having your g-spot stimulated may sound painful, it is anything but.  Open your mind to the possibilities and allow your partner to explore.

First off I’m going to create a little scenario for you. A friend decides to help out another friend by performing a blowjob on him. There is no emotional connection, no touching, fondling or otherwise. It is simply the action of the mouth on the shaft moving up and down. Yes, it is a blowjob, but could it also be simply one friend assisting the masturbation of another? Think about it.

This idea could be pushed even further of course. Say the friend of the man didn’t even touch the head or the shaft, simply sat nearby while he jerked off, and then came in the mouth of his friend. Does that fall under the family of the blowjob? What if the friend licked the head, while he stroked himself, but did nothing else. Again, does this fall into the same category of a blowjob? Interesting no?

Could this type of thing be placed in a similar category as mutual masturbation? In the scenario I outlined above, the only individual getting any sexual relief is the friend receiving the blowjob, and that blowjob it’s a very technical blowjob, with no other play what so ever.

For those who may not know, mutual masturbation is when two partners masturbate in front of each other. They do not touch one another at all, and simply turn each other on by watching and hearing each other. This form of sexual play is often not thought of as cheating when performed outside of a relationship due to the fact there is no physical contact with the other person.

Think of the whole concept of the blowjob as a masturbation aid in reverse. If a woman is fingering herself, while someone is sucking her tits, would that not be aiding in masturbation?

These days it seems it’s the polar opposite, and I have come to question is there anything that’s considered Taboo anymore? With porn becoming more mainstream in the late 1990s, it opened the erotic doors for many people, allowing them to indulge in what was previously considered taboo fantasy, and certain sexual subjects, such as anal sex, began to find its own niche not just in the adult industry, but for everyday folk in the privacy of their own bedrooms.

As the Internet gained popularity it not just opened the erotic doors for some people, but literally blew them off the hinges. Suddenly the world of the taboo is available at the click of a mouse, and thus in many ways desensitizing us from what was previously considered to be out of the norm in the ways of sex. Unexpectedly to some, what they may have previously considered to be dirty or an act they may have never considered before now has them curious. Even subjects such as 3-somes (either M/F/M or F/M/F), partner swapping, and even sex parties are now longer considered something you’d only see late at night on those “special” channels you had to pay extra for.

It’s the same with any topic, be exposed to it often enough, and your opinions change on said subject. But have we been over-exposed? I’m not saying that what’s happened is necessarily a bad thing, but if nothing is considered taboo anymore, what do we have left? What little secret fantasies can we keep to ourselves because we think others will consider us “not quite all there”, and being OK with that, because it was sexy, hot and the idea of it drove us wild!

If what we USE to consider Taboo is now the norm (or at least not AS frowned upon by society), where do we go from here? That is a question, I’m not really sure how I feel about. I mean, how much further can we really go when you think about it?  Words to ponder..

For men, the idea of having two women have their way with you is the ultimate fantasy. Two soft mouths, kissing and licking; two sets of hands roaming your body; two mouths working together for one hell of a blowjob, and then in the end, banging one of the women, while the other receives oral sex from the woman you’re banging! How much better can it get in most men’s eyes!

But why does men find this idea so hot? For some, it’s the fact that you’re receiving double the pleasure from two women, and that you are the center of their attention. For others, the turn on comes simply from the fact of watching two women have sexual relations with one another. Kissing, touching, oral sex. The whole idea drives them nuts just thinking about it.

It all comes down to the ultimate pleasure factor. We all have things that turn us on beyond anything else. Be it “taboo” items, such as sex with two women (for men), sex with two men (for some women), or even sex with a man and another woman (for some other women!), we all have fantasies that we’d love to play out over and over again in our minds. For those lucky enough to live out a fantasy, it is something that remains a treasured memory forever.

So I’m going to do something a little different now. I invite the men out there to share their experiences with two women. Did it live up to your expectations? Was it everything you hoped it would be? Or was something lacking compared to your fantasy?

So are guys really homophobic, or are they just shy about their anal cavities? What goes on in the mind of a guy that makes them think they are less macho if they are touched or perceived in certain way?

I believe that, for most guys, the phobia is a confused, a state of mind rather than a fear or adversity of male genitalia.

Let me explain where I’m coming from – Now it’s common knowledge that males have stronger orgasms and harder erections when their prostates are stimulated, and the best way to do so is by anally inserting a finger or a small dildo; removing it as the guy orgasms.  Now, if this brings such pleasure, why are some guys afraid when a woman inserts a finger in the guys anal cavity as they are receiving a blow job? That does not make them less of a man, or gay. It’s just a way to get more pleasure than they are used to.

Now my biggest dilemma is those guys that I personally know that are very homophobic, yet, they love it when the woman “toss the salad” while they are receiving oral pleasure. ummm, isn’t that a double standard?

So what makes the guy feel homophobic?

ahhhhh. .I see. At the bar or out with their friends, they have to act macho and very male, because well, they are males. They need to show their superiority to the rest of the world. Their personality and reputation must not be damaged. They also must behave in a certain way when they are out with their better half. However once the clothes come off, and the candles come on; pretty much anything goes. Here, in the bedroom, they won’t mind getting a finger or maybe a toy or even a tongue inserted into them, as long as they can ‘get off’.

Me personality? Oh you don’t really want to go there do you?  Ok, if you must know, I’m as homophobic as they come. I don’t like any foreign objects anywhere near the vicinity of my anal cavity. Not only will it turn me off, but I will literally freak out and jump. I was getting a very hot blow job once when a girl just went and stuck her damn finger inside my butthole right before I was going to cum, and I have never lost an erection so fast in my life. Not only that, but I didn’t get to cum either.

I wouldn’t say that it was the element of surprise that freaked me out, because I would have felt the same way if we had planned it out and she used lube. It was just the finger in ‘there’ that freaked me out.

So does that make me homophobic? I believe that term refers to neither a true phobia  nor any fear of gay sexuality. I think it’s all in our minds, and we as logical human beings must give it a name and somehow recognize it as a “sickness” when there really isn’t a sickness.

Of course this article is just my opinion and some questions/answers I go by. The actual studies on “Homophobia” are numerous. The list is too long to mention them all here, but for serious discussions, you can google the word “Homophobia” or just follow the link below to arrive at your own conclusion on what you think what homophobia really is:
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=T9z&num=50&q=Homophobia&btnG=Search